How to have “the talk” with a loved one
Knowing when to discuss retirement community options with your loved one can be tough. And figuring out the right approach is even harder.
At Blue Harbor Senior Living, we know that it can be difficult to discuss retirement options with your aging loved one, and even more difficult to find the right retirement community. Our professional team is here to help you and your family with this transition. Blue Harbor works with families of all backgrounds to help the transition from independent living into a senior living community. We offer a range of senior living options, from independent living to memory care. You can rely on our expertise and advice to help guide you through the process. There have probably been some warning signs that assisted senior living is necessary for your aging parent. Whether it is a fall, not paying their bills or even hospitalization, a senior living community may be your next option. If so, the time may have come to have “the talk” with your loved one.
In this case, taking control of the situation and making the right decision becomes your responsibility. We understand that you would love to see your loved one thriving. When you decide it is time for the discussion to transition to assisted living, Blue Harbor has a few tips to help guide the process.
Don’t wait to bring up the topic, be proactive.
Don't wait until something like a fall or significant memory lapse happens. Elderly people can be defensive at the idea of moving into an assisted living community. Discuss the idea of transitioning from their home to a home for seniors in a positive, loving way.
There’s no need to wait if there’s been a close call
Even if there is not a major accident, there still may be some signs that your elderly parent may need some assistance. Don’t wait before it’s too late. Present the idea early and allow them to process the concept of assisted living. This gives both parties time to discuss the matter, and hopefully reach a decision that is best for your family. Remember, this is a major life change, and some resistance may be expected. It is important to remain persistent but respectful.
It will be emotional, be prepared.
Families should understand that “the talk” is an emotional conversation. Your loved one will have questions regarding their legacy or why they should leave somewhere where they’re comfortable. Call Blue Harbor Senior Living beforehand and speak with a representative. You can ask any questions and will hopefully be better prepared to approach the situation with insightful, helpful answers.
Ask for help.
Do not be scared to ask for help. Most people find it difficult to present the idea of an assisted living community. Blue Harbor Senior Living's experienced team is here to help. Feel free to contact a Blue Harbor Community Relation Manager at any one of our local care communities to go over any questions you have. The Community Relation Manager at each community can offer guidance from their years of experience in the senior living industry and are happy to answer any questions that you have.
Gather your support system.
Another advocate you can enlist is your loved one’s doctor. Schedule an appointment alone—so you can discuss the warning signs you’ve seen. Then, at their next scheduled appointment, they will hear from their own physician that they should consider assisted living. A doctor often has more influence than even you have. Or perhaps a priest or pastor, or another friend? Again, people outside the family can have more impact than grown children.
Bring your loved one in for a visit.
Blue Harbor Senior Living offers a great opportunity for our prospective community members to tour a community. Let your aging loved one know that you would like to treat them to lunch and bring them by to a Blue Harbor location near you. While you’re there, enjoy some great food and take a tour of the senior care center.
Be enthusiastic! Show your loved one the potential!
You can ease the stress of relocating by helping to visualize the positives of living in an active senior living community. Some of these benefits include:
- Visualizing how their furniture would be laid out in their new apartment
- Not worry about maintaining their home or yard
- The friends they will make in their new senior living community
Remember, one of your best resources is your local Blue Harbor Community Relations Manager. Helping you talk to your aging parent or other loved one is part of what they do every day. Feel free to contact your local Blue Harbor Senior Living community anytime!